Is "Thank you in advance" rude, and what should I write instead?

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It is not rude in itself, but it thanks someone for work they have not agreed to do, so it can read as assuming a yes. Native readers vary: some never notice it, others find it presumptuous. If you want to remove the risk, either thank them for their time rather than the outcome, or move the thanks to after they have actually helped.

Thanks for taking a look — Thanks them for attention rather than for compliance, so it works even if their answer turns out to be no. Example: The figures are in the second tab. Thanks for taking a look.

I appreciate your help with this — Warmer and slightly more formal. Suits external contacts or anyone doing you a genuine favor. Example: I appreciate your help with this — I know the timing is tight.

Let me know if anything is unclear — Replaces the thanks entirely with an offer. Often the strongest option, because it gives rather than asks. Example: Let me know if anything is unclear and I'll rewrite that section.

Avoid all of these when the request is genuinely optional and you have already asked twice. At that point another polite closing adds pressure rather than removing it. Say what happens if they cannot help — "if you don't get to it, I'll go ahead with the current draft" — which releases them and usually gets a faster reply than any softer phrasing would.

What to write instead of "Thank you in advance"

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Thanks for taking a look

I appreciate your help with this

Let me know if anything is unclear

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